I’ve Grown Weary of Men Who Only Watch

I love men. I love men a lot!  Some of my favorite humans (most especially my son) are of the male species. I love them so much sometimes that it hurts. The hurt, however, is not for lack of love. Instead, it is the deep hurt I feel when I see some (perhaps many) men failing to participate in a world that deeply needs their strength, courage, and most especially their voice.

First I want to say THANK YOU to the men I know and see who stand up in the face of injustice, who risk criticism and condemnation for speaking/living/expressing their truth, who defend the rights of women and children, and who risk certain loss for defending the rights of the disenfranchised. I want to thank those who have risked life, limb, status, and their own welfare for doing what is right, even when they know it might certainly mean having to turn in “the man card.” Thank you Thank you Thank you too all these good men who are working hard to support the betterment of our world.

WE NEED MANY, MANY MORE LIKE YOU!

Which brings me to the difficult words. While these good men are doing good things in the world, there are far too few of them. If we ever hope for the patriarchal/hierarchical/fear/power/oppression/control machine to turn around, we desperately need the men to stand up, speak out, and take action. White men especially, for the simple reason that the only way to turn this thing around is for those for whom it was built and for those who most benefit to stand up and say,

“THIS IS WRONG!  THIS ISN’T WORKING. TOO MANY ARE SUFFERING FOR THE SAKE OF THE FEW.” 

Then they need to do something about it.

I’ve grown weary of men who only watch as women, children, and the disenfranchised and discriminated against weep, and cry, and wail for the suffering brought forth in our world by a few powerful men.  I’ve grown tired of giving my voice to a cause only to watch my words fall on deaf ears. I’m exhausted from caring about the world and those who are suffering in it because of the actions of greedy, gluttonous, prideful men and their complicit women, and wondering, while I’m caring, if anyone else cares. Do people even see all that has gone wrong in our world or has blindness become a defense mechanism as the whole world is turning to shit?  It is too painful to watch and too overwhelming to even begin to do something about it?

Those of us who have been the eyes, the voice, the heart for our dying world are exhausted. This is why we need MEN to stand up and do something more than just watch!

Sidenote: I know my words won’t make a difference. I just needed to speak it and say it so those who share these feelings know they aren’t alone. Thank you sisters and all the good men who are seeing, speaking, and acting on behalf of the healing and transformation of our dying world.  


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I’m Tired

I’m tired. I’m tired from so many things that it’s an effort to even put this Soul-level exhaustion into words.  I’m just tired.

I’m tired from being unseen and unheard.

I’m tired of being dismissed by insecure men because my intelligence might eclipse theirs or because I’m not the 22-year-old blonde they still dream of while they are grey of hair and sagging in flesh.

I’m tired of the shiny objects that seem to rule our world and of those who continue to spend their money and attention on fluff.

I’m tired of the common good being ignored for the sake of the powerful few.

I’m tired of the greedy and gluttonous nature of Western culture.

I’m tired of human beings destroying our planet.

I’m tired of MONEY being more important than…well, anything!

I’m tired of the Western definition of “success” and the capitalistic lie that suggests everyone has an equal opportunity for achieving that success.

I’m tired of the lie of “equal opportunity,” of all those who believe it, and all those who cling to it as if it’s some sort of dogma.

I’m tired of false patriotism. For that matter, I’m also tired of nationalism. No matter how much we tell ourselves otherwise, the United States IS NOT the “greatest nation in the world,” – not even by a long shot!   (And don’t respond to my comment here by telling me to just move.  Instead, take a look at the data!)

I’m tired of racism, sexism, genderism, (hah….patriotism and nationalism are isms too!) ageism, religionism, classism, and every other ism based on the false premise that one kind of human is better than another.

I’m tired of being told what kind of body is acceptable or preferred and that there is inherently something wrong (and less lovable) than anything outside of that designation.

I’m tired of human beings being objectified as if we are a commodity to be assigned value, traded, used, and worked to death for another’s pleasure, profit, or gratification.

I’m tired of the “man card” – the rules that dictate what makes “a man a man,” and the toxic nature of those rules.

I’m tired of complicit women – those who deny sexism and misogyny because they somehow benefit from it.

I’m tired of humans who look the other way as other human beings suffer.

I’m tired of a culture that allows people to go hungry, homeless, without an adequate education, without healthcare.

I’m tired of a banking industry that makes its profits off the backs of the poor.

I’m tired of a culture that purposefully and intentionally seeks to divide.

I’m tired from the lack of true journalism and of the tabloid catastrophe it has become.

I’m tired of a narcissistic, self-centered world in which people only care about themselves and their own selfish needs – without care or concern for how their actions might negatively impact another.

I’m tired of the voices of the prophets and visionaries of our world being silenced as they try to wake humanity up out of their collective unseeing, unhearing, and comatose state.

I’m just tired.

Coming Home

I am currently a member of Hag School with Danielle Dulsky which has been a terrific opportunity for me to exercise my creative gifts of writing. The following video was one of our assignments. I believe it may have meaning for some. I hope you enjoy it.


Lauri Ann Lumby

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My True Face

My True Face

In the crucible of my inner cauldron, I see:

My True Face.

A face of flame

and darkness.

Of gentle rain

and forest soil.

A face that destroys and transforms.

Conceals and reveals.

Softens and comforts.

A face in which dreams are planted

and deep roots take hold.

Sacredly held in cauldron’s embrace

for few can survive its seeing.

Showing instead my face only partial.

Waiting in hope that there will one day be

One who can see fully and still remain.

copyright Lauri Ann Lumby

Artwork copyright Catherine E. Case used with permission


Lauri Ann Lumby

is the author of ten books including Happily Ever After – the Transformational Journey from “You Complete Me” to Beloved Partnership.

A Song from the Ash

A Song from the Ash

Even now, a creature stirs deep in the ashes of her old and now dead life.

What was once, is no longer.

Last blood spilled.

Final breath heaved.

Nothing remaining but the ash of the old.

Unto dust it has returned.

Peeking out from beneath the cinders –

a tiny spark of light.

Glimmering and iridescent in shades of

cyan, fuchsia, tangerine, and chartreuse.  

Peeking shyly, parting the cinder curtain –

seeing if it’s safe outside.

Dare she step forth into the open?

Her bolder sister, tested on the witch’s pyre

and made of warrior’s rage

had hid her under armor,

but of her brave sister, now only ash remains.

“Who now will keep me safe?” she wondered.

The ash whispering as a soft wind came and blew it away:

“You will keep yourself safe.”

A single blood-red tear dripped down the creature’s face

as she offered a silent prayer of thanks

to the sister who had courageously paved the way.

Testing new legs, she slowly stood

Stretching arms to discover she had wings.

Leaning into the air,

the creature carried aloft.

Dancing on the breeze she first whispered,

and then sang her true name:

Joy!  Joy!  Joy!

copyright Lauri Ann Lumby


Lauri Ann Lumby

is the author of ten books including Returning – a Woman’s Midlife Journey to Herself, and Happily Ever After – the Transformational Journey from “You Complete Me” to Beloved Partnership.

Only Death Remaining

Only Death Remaining

My hood is raised, wandering through the ash-lands

of what humanity made of itself.

Burnt and desolate waste as far as the eye can see.

Air putrid with the stink of decay.

Undeterred winds casting forth clouds of bone-dust.

Sun glowing blood-red,

barely discernible behind the impenetrable wall of air-borne cinder.

No life to make a sound but that of the howling wind.

No trees left standing.

Crops burned to the ground.

Lake beds, rivers, and seas laying empty –

even the water-creatures turned to dust.

Soot, ash, and cinder – all that remains of what humanity touched.

Skeletal fingers sucking the beauty and life out of all that once was.

Humanity the makers of their own doom.

Fair warning we gave them.

Begging and pleading for them to take care.

Mute were we to their greed-filled ears and gluttonous eyes.

“Never enough.  Never enough.  Never enough,”

they cried like frantic egg-laying flesh-flies.

Consuming and bursting. Consuming and bursting.

Even maggots could no longer survive.

A pestilence upon this once magnificent planet humanity became.

A plague upon themselves.

Then the wars came.

And then Death.

Now, only Death remains,

And I am She.

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Lauri Ann Lumby

is the author of ten books including Elegy, A Mouth Filled with Flame, Happily Ever After, and Returning.

Wicked (?) Witch

Wicked ? Witch

Through wicked whispered breath kissing the earth,
the witch administers her magic.

Catalyst for change.
Herald for Death.
Midwifing new life.

Understood by few.
Scorned by many.

A woman alone is dangerous.
Condemned as temptation by some,
an envy to others.
Mystery strikes both fear and wonder.

Who is this woman with a heart so great and a fuse so short?
A single look from her evil eye will strike you dead.
She sees into the infinity of your Soul.
You cannot hide from her all-seeing eye.
And nothing compares to the love she so freely shares.

Humanity wonders who is this woman and why is she always alone?
To them, the witch gives no answer.
But the earth – the Blessed Earth knows
the witch’s secrets kissing in her wicked whispered breath.

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The Nature of Evil

The Nature of Evil

Beyond the world of duality

I AM ONE.

In the dualistic world

I AM TWO.

As TWO I AM Goodness,

and the opposite of Goodness

which is Evil.

In the dualistic world

Evil seems the antithesis to Goodness,

but from the place of Union

Goodness and Evil are One – inseparable as the Whole.

The Evil serves the Good

and Good has need of Evil.

In the dualistic world,

without the force of Evil

humanity would never find the Good

and Good would be absent of purpose –

which becomes its own kind of Evil.

Salvation is not in overcoming Evil.

Neither is it in becoming only Good.

Redemption is found in embracing the ALL

so much so that only Compassion remains.

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I Can’t

A HUGE thank you from my dear friend and soul-brother, Christian Borchardt, for this contribution to the outcry over the overturning of Roe vs. Wade. Chris says he wrote this as he found himself overcome with rage while reading his Sunday paper. Chris’ outrage is a terrific reminder that the overturning of RvW is a WE issue and that men too have a place in this conversation. Thank you Chris! I’m sooooooo grateful for you!

I can’t add nor remove anything

from MY body

Because YOU say

I can’t.

I can’t afford your food

I can’t afford your shelter

I can’t afford you – being you

By the way

Who are you –

Really, let me know

But

I can

Vote

Discern

and Judge

By the people, for the people, and

I am the people.


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The overturning of Roe Vs. Wade is yet another symptom, among many, of an empire in collapse.

We cannot halt the empire’s collapse, neither should we try. A system that was built on fear, power, oppression, and control, is inherently unsustainable. It is time for that system to fall away so that a new system might be born from the ash.  

In the meantime – how are we to survive an empire facing its own demise?

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Betrayed

I am writing this just 45 minutes after the news was released that Roe Vs. Wade was overturned by the United States Supreme Court.

There are no words.

Disgusted. Sick. Angry.  All come to mind, but this only scratches the surface of the reality behind this ruling:

The American people have been betrayed by our government – in the Supreme Court and everywhere else where women have been deprived of sovereignty over their own bodies. In a nation that proudly waves the banner of representative democracy where the majority of the population consider themselves pro-choice, these decisions are nothing short of betrayal – and demonstrate an epic failure of governance.

The US can no longer call itself a representative democracy.

Yes, this is just another nail in the coffin of a nation fast hurtling toward its self-created demise, but as a woman and as a mother of two young adults, and an auntie to many, this nail is especially painful.

I feel gutted.

I know I’m not alone. In the short time since the Supreme Court decision came down, my phone and social media have been screaming.  Women are angry. Men who care about women should be too. What immediately followed were Clarence Thomas’ vision of a future where both contraception and same sex marriage are illegal (I truly despise this man and have since the Anita Hill thing).  The actions of the vocal minority will not stop at abortion.  Mark my words.

In this moment I don’t have energy to think about appropriate social action. All I can do right now is tend to my grief. Writing is one way I give my grief a voice. Social media is another. There aren’t enough Handmaid’s Tale memes for how many are feeling today.

I can also be a source of support for others.  As a Soul Tender, with a master’s in Transpersonal Psychology, and just darn good listener without judgment, I’m a good place for people to express all that comes forth in the face of betrayal:

  • Shock.
  • Denial (this can’t be happening)
  • Bargaining (maybe more states will come forward with appropriate protections, maybe a new amendment can be written to protect women’s rights) 
  • Depression (feelings of helplessness, despair, immobility)
  • RAGE RAGE RAGE (where I am right now)
  • Sorrow.  (interesting, I found myself weeping in yoga this morning not really knowing why…..now I know).

I’m available via FB messenger and email lauri@lauriannlumby.com and text for those who have my private number.

Finally, in case anyone should forget:

THIS IS NOT JUST A WOMEN’S ISSUE

I’ve been saying this all along:  in a nation that seems to cater to white men, these are the ones who need to speak out and stand up.  Clearly the US Government doesn’t give a shit about women, people of color, or the poor (who will be most devastated by this ruling). Sadly, it has been proved that our voices don’t matter. The good men need to stand up and make their “brothers” hear. If they don’t, they might find that they will be the ones the vocal minority will be coming after next.


Lauri Ann Lumby has over twenty-five years of experience as a soul-tender, educator and guide. She has supported hundreds through her one-on-one guidance, books, workshops, retreats, over thirty online courses, and online community.

Lauri is the author of seven books focusing on personal development, including Authentic Freedom – Claiming a Life of Contentment and Joy.  She is also the author of two poetry collections, and a novel.  

Lauri earned her master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology from Sofia/ITP University, is a trained Spiritual Director in the Ignatian traditioned and has certificates in Adult Education and Psycho-Spiritual Development. Lauri is a Reiki Master Practitioner in both the Usui and Karuna traditions and is an ordained interfaith minister.  Lauri has also studied and been trained in shamanic practices under the tutelage of Dr. Stephen Schmitz. You can reach Lauri directly by emailing lauri@lauriannlumby.com.